Did anyone catch the Oprah show today? The episode was called The Secret Lives of Moms and it consisted of a bunch of moms (including actress Cheryl Hines) spilling the beans on the "downside" of motherhood - all the dirty little secrets - the horrors, the disappointments, the messes, the upsets, the frustrations. When I stumbled upon this show while channel flipping, I thought, hmm, this might
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Oprah: Close, but no cigar
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Keep Running (it prevents thinking)
28 Jun 2009 | 4:35 pmSometimes I have this thought about people who have kids and I wonder if it is just my own prejudice or if I am on to something. My thought is that many people have kids because they are lazy and want an easy way to create a life for themselves. They don't have anything interesting going on, and are too lazy to put real thought or effort into creating a meaningful life for themselves. Becoming a -
The Most Excellent Answer
27 Jun 2009 | 4:22 amHave you often wished you had a snappy answer to the inevitable (and often annoying) question "Do you have kids?"A friend of mine (who is a mom) told me she was chatting with a guy recently and asked him if he had kids. His response?"Do I look unhappy?"Is this not the most excellent answer ever? -
Father's Day Tribute (A Little Late)
26 Jun 2009 | 3:57 amA friend sent me a link to this video (thanks, George). I think you CFers will enjoy this. -
Loud and Proud
23 Jun 2009 | 12:43 pmI really enjoyed this article by Polly Vernon in The Guardian, It Takes Guts to Say: 'I Don't Want Children'. (Thanks, CFVixen). Polly touches on several themes that have often been addressed here in Childfreedom, for example how vocally childfree women are marginalized and made to feel they are freakish, horrible people for not wanting children. She starts the article by applauding Cameron Diaz
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Like It Is
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Childfree? Maybe it’s the Way You Expressed it…
24 Jun 2009 | 9:01 pmSo said a commentator in a comment to Polly Vernon. Polly was commenting on Cameron Diaz’s comment on being childfree and what we already know: “Being a woman and admitting you don’t want children is taboo.” It takes guts to say you don’t want children Cameron was echoing what the childfree have known for ages. Saying you don’t want children can bring out [...] -
Raising Kids Right: Just Sacrifice and Stay Home
19 Jun 2009 | 4:02 amThis article isn’t strictly about being Chidlfree. But it’s causing such a furor in Alberta, Canada right now that I thought it was worth sharing and seeing what you thought. I found it quite interesting if only for the sheer number comments it generated. The comments are almost always the fun bit. Raising Kids Properly Means One Parent at Home It [...] -
Childfree - Do You Miss Out On Unconditional Love?
10 Jun 2009 | 4:09 amHere’s a question a reader asked me recently. One of the many reasons people often give for wanting kids is that they feel their kids will love them unconditionally. I used to be “bingoed” with it this way when I mentioned I was happily childfree: “But don’t you want the unconditional love of a child? Clearly that [...] -
An Opinion by a Young, Childfree, Single Professional Male
2 Jun 2009 | 10:13 pm“We childfree people don’t want them to change their minds. The only thing we want is to be left alone. No More and no less.” – Mike. Mike from Mexico sent me this, hoping that you’d find it interesting. I enjoyed it hugely, not least for the fact that it’s always good to get the male [...] -
Just Another Onslaught Against the Childfree… By a VERY Ignorant Mother (and ex-boss)
27 May 2009 | 4:28 amTwo or more people sent me this link (thank you) so I thought it should probably be the next article to blog about. Why bosses are right to distrust women who don’t want children Frankly, after reading the article I half-wondered if it wasn’t some hoax to get attention… you know, last time it was Nicki Defago [...]
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Childfree Clique
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Baby Shower Shopping- The Fuck Was I Thinking?
2 Jul 2009 | 1:14 pmA few months ago, I wrote about how my very best friend in the universe is with child. Actually, I wrote about it twice.Well, I figured I'd post a follow up since her baby shower was a few weeks ago and reality REALLY sunk in for me that yikes, this baby is coming in 3 months.First, let me discuss the shower.Like most CF people, I LOATHE FUCKING BABY SHOWERS.I usually only go to baby showers for the free cake. There's never any alcohol and the rest of what goes on at these things is a deplorable exercise in stupidity.I mean just the idea of a "baby shower" is annoying to me...this is a widely… -
You'll NEVER Regret Having Kids!
1 Jun 2009 | 6:58 pmI usually don't comment on Mommy Blogs but after reading this article and the comments over at BabyCenter, I had to respond to a piece of parenting propaganda.As you all know, I have written extensively about women who HATE motherhood. It's a new phenomenon to hear the hate stories thanks to the glorious interwebs.Anyway, an inquisitive fence sitter, Megan, decided to posted a comment making her uncertainty about starting a family known. She partly states: "I am a little reluctant to have kids because the number of hardships and sacrifices I hear about seem to outweigh the joys and… -
Childfree Women- NOT TO BE TRUSTED!
27 May 2009 | 6:04 pmOne of my readers, Vanessa, has brought this recent article in the Daily Mail to my attention and I wanted to share it with all of you.Entitled, "Why bosses are right to distrust women who don't want children... by a VERY outspoken mother (and ex-boss)" this shitty piece is sure to get a few of you going!Personally, I couldn't help but giggle at it. Childfree women are some of the best, most dedicated co-workers I've ever had, I don't know what this dickass is talking about.The author however, thinks voluntarily childless women are "weird".Yes, how WEIRD we childfree women are. We must be a… -
It's Fucking Nursery School For Chrissakes!
23 May 2009 | 11:06 pmDear Gawd Almighty, I just saw the most ridiculous documentary in the history of the entire world.It's called Nursery University and is currently airing on Showtime (it's also available on Netflix).Set in Manhattan, we're introduced to the world of privileged, status-obsessed breeders desperately angling to get their children into the elite nursery school of their dreams.Honestly 90% of the parents in the film are insufferable, oblivious, entitled breeders who think if their snotlings don't get into "Over-rated, Over-Priced Preschool School For The Haughty & Pretentious", their three-year-old… -
Here Ya Go!
28 Apr 2009 | 8:20 pmRegarding the last post-I guess I figured more people had the link to my personal blog before I took it down so anon assbags couldn't invite themselves there and harass with dumb comments the way they often do here. But since I got a few emails about it, I figured I'd better just post about the horrendous "Bring your kid to work day" debacle here. My apologies for the loyal, not-shitty, anon asshat readers feeling left out!Oh my fuck, I cannot even tell you how fucking agitated I am after this hellacious day.Today was "Bring your bratty crotch nugget child to work day" and the fuckery was at…
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A side of the police you don't see
3 Jul 2009 | 12:41 pmAfter the tragic deaths of two police dogs after a fuckwit cop left them in a car in hot temperatures, other police officers and members of the public laid flowers for the dead dogs. While the idiot responsible will hopefully get his arse kicked, the fact other police officers left flowers showed a side to the police you don't often see. The police have gone up in my estimation. Flowers left... -
Mountain from molehill
3 Jul 2009 | 12:25 pmThere was an 'incident' not long back when there was a row between a shopkeeper in Shanklin, Isle of Wight and a couple of Welsh grockles tourists. Allegedly, the shopkeeper told them she would not have Welsh speakers in her shop (the sisters were speaking Welsh among them), a row ensued and these two women have alleged all sorts of things such as racism. Obviously there are two sides to every story and one wonders if the Welsh women gobbed off to the shopkeeper.... -
Justice seen to be done!
3 Jul 2009 | 9:17 amI love this story, and I think you'll like it too. A little toerag breaks into a 72 year old pensioner's home and the old man promptly smashes the little bastard's face in! I think justice has been served, more so because the toerag got four-and-a-half years for aggravated burglary. Made my day, this story. -
LOL
29 Jun 2009 | 3:16 amGeorge Carlin on child worship http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YiPurmMy9gA&NR=1 sit back and enjoy -
To make you laugh
28 Jun 2009 | 11:25 amI am not a nice person - read the heading to this article and laughed out loud. There must be more to motherhood Online parenting forums are flooded with depressed, tired and anxious mums. Whatever happened to the yummy mummy dream? What amazes me is how any...
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Childfree News
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No kidding: The child-free couple allow parents another chance to air their views
26 Jun 2009 | 10:00 pmNo kidding: The child-free couple allow parents another chance to air their views[A] father of three children under 6. . . pleads: “I wonder if you could stop telling me about your fantastic social life. I know I asked what you’d been up to, but it was purely rhetorical: I don’t actually want to hear that your suite had a plunge pool, or that everybody ended up back at Kate Moss’s, or that the sharks were so close that you could touch them. Show some sensitivity. Please shut up. Last weekend I went to the park four times and saw some tramps.”. . .Still on non-invitations, one of our… -
Childless is not a synonym for weird
26 Jun 2009 | 9:29 pmIt's intolerable that women's careers are still hobbled by assumptions based on their fertilityA new book by Dr Caroline Gatrell, based on several years of research on women in employment, found some bosses consider those who choose not to have kids to be cold and odd, and refuse to promote them, since their deficiency of maternal instinct is seen as tantamount to a lack of "essential humanity".. . .Motherhood is a huge part of female identity and any woman who doesn't experience it, for whatever reason, has to find meaning and self-definition in different ways. Work is one important area for… -
Huffington Post: Are the Childless Weird?
26 Jun 2009 | 8:25 pmCameron Diaz on her Childfree Status and Why the Planet Needs More Non-breedersWhen it's still okay to ask "are the childless weird?"While Diaz added that she thinks attitudes are changing, there are still plenty who fail to see a choice to not have children as one of the most selfless things a woman, or man, can do for the planet (one U.S. person= 20 tons of CO2 per year).The same magazine that published her interview turned around and asked in an online poll: "Are women who don't want children weird?". While there was plenty of support for non-breeders, there were the inevitable comments… -
Why DO babies turn so many brilliant women into slummy mummies?
24 Jun 2009 | 8:15 amMailOnlineMy heart sank when I saw her because I realised that here was yet another clever, pretty woman who had chosen to sacrifice herself and her marriage to motherhood.Why is it that when so many women become mothers they turn into boring frumps with one-track conversational minds that rarely stray from the oh- so fascinating subjects of nurseries, nappies and (lactating) nipples.These women infuriate me. They think they are doing what's best for their children when, really, they are committing the worst form of self-neglect, and insulting their marriage into the bargain.Most of the women… -
Kids on a plane
24 Jun 2009 | 7:57 amI prefer SnakesOn one side, you have childless customers who just want a little civility while they're locked inside a pressurized aluminum tube. And on the other, parents who believe airlines should accommodate anyone, anytime — particularly their beloved offspring.. . .Question is, what to do about the littlest air travelers?A decade ago, the last time I wrote about this issue, my sympathies were with solo passengers who wanted to ban babies on board. But now I have three kids — ages 6, 4 and 2 — and I'm leaning to the parents' side.Kinda.Here are five ways we might approach the…
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Childfree Pet Parents
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23 Jun 2009 | 5:56 pm
23 Jun 2009 | 5:56 pmEverything went fine. Compared to the Twins spay and neuter last year, Ursula isn't having any lingering druggy side effects or signs of disorientation. She's going a bit more slowly than a 4 mo old teenager usually does, but she's great. No bards after food and water, and she keeps curling up with me and darn if I can't get her to stop licking at the superglue they put on her tum. and I see my thigh is now being fluffed...I think I'm about to become furniture again. -
sterilization scheduled!
22 Jun 2009 | 10:15 amUrsula goes in for her spay tomorrow morning. Sweet. Got my county voucher and everything. -
Cat Question
17 Jun 2009 | 1:07 pmSo Dharma there decided to attack my toes while I was painting my toenails. Now she has big red patches of nail polish in her fur. Is there a good way to clean that? I didn't want to just dip her in acetone. I've already had a neighbor knock on the door and say, "I saw your cat in the window, and I think it's bleeding!" -
Quick I Need Backup!!!
9 Jun 2009 | 2:50 pmOkay so here's what happened:My aunt's dog has diarrhea and she accidently stained her back legs. Her husband (evil bastard) wanted me to clean her up so I did, more so because he's rough and rude to the poor dog. Anyway, he tells me rudely "Tell your mom not to give her rice anymore."Um I thought rice HELPED with diarrhea.So here's where I need your help. Stubborn as this asshole is, he won't belive me unless I have proof. So... Can you guys provide me with links to articles, statistics, whatever it takes to shut him up?It's clear he knows NOTHING about dogs. He won't let me groom the poor… -
One of the reasons I am cf...
6 Jun 2009 | 3:30 pmOne of the big reasons I am childfree is what happened to my goat, Pan. I adopted two male kids (British Saanens) that would have been killed as surplas of the goat breeding industry. I named them Pan and Loki. At several times during the first three months we owned them two little girls from a neighboring house would sneak through their fence to look closer at the goats. We didn't mind as they were very well behaved and never went into the paddock or touched the gate. I know when I was a kid if our neighbors had goats I would have wanted to see them, so we left it be. On June 5th 2007, we…
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CocoaChildfree
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So-Called Logic On Facebook
1 Jul 2009 | 2:01 pmA guy on Facebook complained that a woman turned him down because she didn’t not want to deal with a man who has kids. The guy has a daughter. He was offended, and complained that he might have been more attractive to the woman if he was a baby’s daddy. I mentioned that I was childfree, and would not date a man who had kids. However, I also wrote that I applaud any man who take responsibility for their kids, since there are so many around who purposely drop the ball. One of his other Facebook friends jumped down my throat. Not only was I told that I insulted the man, but… -
Not At My Church, Kid
24 Jun 2009 | 1:23 pmPastor was contacted by an 18-year-old who needs to complete community service. Actually, the 18-year-old didn’t bother to make the call. Her mother did. In the recent past, Pastor had agreed to someone doing community service at church, but it didn’t work out. The person, a male, did not complete all of their hours, and expected Pastor to sign off on it. Pastor did not, and the guy got salty. “What does your gut tell you about this situation? Should we allow them to come here?” he asked me. I told him no, because at the time, we didn’t know why… -
VBS Is Not For Adults
19 Jun 2009 | 11:40 amI was sitting in the back seat of Pastor’s car, as he, his wife and I were on our way to lunch. “Are you coming to VBS (Vacation Bible School) tonight?” he asked. “And be around a bunch of screaming and yelling kids? Besides, I have to run the gym tonight because the coach is not going to be there,” I answered. “So you can be around screaming and yelling adults instead of kids,” the pastor commented with what sounded like a bit of sarcasm. “Screaming and cussing adults!” his wife giggled. The folks at the gym don’t…
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Happily Childfree
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Parents Are Not Responsible
21 Jun 2009 | 2:36 pmAbout a month ago I read this infuriating article. You can go ahead and click on it, but I’m going to sum it up for you anyway. It’s a poorly written article, but this is what I got out of it: Woman has a backyard pool and a doggie door. Apparently not being too bright, she has no concept that the dog is larger than her toddler, and thus, if doggie can get out the door, so can toddler. So when toddler is left unsupervised, he got out of the house and into the pool and drowned before anyone thought, “Hmm, didn’t we have a kid around here somewhere?” Woman is now… -
Don’t Reward the Wrong Thing, Society
21 Jun 2009 | 1:10 pmI really hate the concept of Mother’s and Father’s Days – not because I feel “left out”– but because we’re rewarding the wrong thing. These occasions aren’t about “Celebrate Parents who do an exceptional job!” or “Celebrate Parents who raised their kids even through (actual) hardships and troubles.” Rather the message is: “Celebrate anyone who had irresponsible sex or a greedy fertility doctor” Day. I might take these “holidays” more seriously if the holidays were more serious – celebrating good… -
Pregnant Women Are Smug
3 May 2009 | 7:12 pmIf you haven’t seen the video yet, you really have to! It’s hysterical! Thanks to STFU Parents for pointing me to the video! Enjoy! -
Why I hate Jon + Kate
30 Apr 2009 | 10:44 pmWay, way back, I wrote this blurb about the Gosselin family after watching their first TV special. While it was quite obviously a beg-a-thon, I immediately liked this family far better than the Quiverfull groups that TLC always features. The Gosselins appeared to be honest about their flaws. Those Quiverfull nuts pretend their families are totally perfect, even though that’s quite far from the truth. Since then they’ve done a second special and subsequently got their own series. I’ve tuned in to a few episodes out of morbid curiosity and found them quite boring. I might have… -
Save Women!
26 Apr 2009 | 1:50 pmPerusing Facebook today, I found an amusing (and obviously unofficial) poll I thought I’d share with you. If you knew that 1 in 10 woman were harmed by an abortion in some way, (Phisiacly, mentally, etc…) would be in favor of it? - Yes, its a right of all woman. - No, who wants somthing legal that hurts woman - Yes, but I believe that those doctors that hurt the woman should be held liable - Yes, but there needs to be far more regulation - No, abortion is murder How cute. A 7-year-old set up a poll! I especially love how this ‘tard doesn’t know the difference between…
