Today I thought I would pose a question to all of you: how do you meet other childfree folks? I don't know about you, but my experience has been that most of the childfree people I connect with are on-line, through sites like this, or discussion boards or other places where I am not likely to meet them in person.In "real life" I know very few people who define themselves as "childfree". I know
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Childfree Celebrity Spotlight: Renee Zellweger
27 Oct 2009 | 9:34 amActress Renee Zellweger enjoys being an aunt, but perceives parenthood as a form of slavery."Motherhood has never been an ambition. I don't think like that. I never have expectations like, 'When I'm 19 I'm going to do this, and by the time I've hit 25 I'm going to do that'. I just take things as they come, each day at a time, and if things happen then all well and good.""My brother has two -
The Bitch & Backpedal
21 Oct 2009 | 8:42 amHere's something that I find utterly fascinating about some parents - perhaps you too have witnessed this. I call it The Bitch & Backpedal. This is how it works.A parent is bitching and complaining about their kids and about being a parent. They're really letting loose and spilling all the beans. You know the scene. You're quiet and listening and letting them vent. They are going on and on full -
IVF: Getting into the God Business
16 Oct 2009 | 3:20 pmWhen the Octomom story broke a number of months ago, my head was spinning at the revelation that a fertility doctor had implanted an unemployed, single mother (who already had 6 children and who was sponging off her parents, living in their small 3 bedroom house) with 8 embryos. Somehow the doctor's behavior seemed even more insane to me than the behavior of Octomom herself which says a lot. The -
Father Puts Kids up for Sale
11 Oct 2009 | 4:43 amNot really. He's a blogger dad who's just venting and being funny, but you know the humor comes from the fact that it's all true. It almost reads like The 101 Reasons Not to Have Kids. Here you go:For SaleThanks to SwissBarb for forwarding this to me.
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Babies and Facebook
16 Oct 2009 | 5:41 pmAs I get older *sigh*, it seems as though more and more of my friends are jumping on to the baby bandwagon. I know it was inevitable but that still doesn’t mean I have to like it. Facebook has obviously allowed a lot of us to keep in touch with current and past connections and this can be a good…and bad thing. Below are just a few observations I’ve noticed on my daily FB newsfeed. 4-D ultrasound pictures or any ultrasound/sonogram picture for that matter as your Facebook profile picture. And it begins… Not only are they creepy as hell (everyone with me on… -
Back from the Dead
20 Sep 2009 | 9:10 amWow…has it been a while or what? I want to apologize for my lack of posting for the last few months. This year has been…let’s just say, not what I expected. I need to do a little background info and venting so be prepared for a bit of a ride. First and foremost, I am now single once again. Basically, my husband and I decided that our relationship was no longer a positive factor in either of our lives. Fortunately, it was mutual and easy to handle so in the grand scheme of things, it was fairly quick and relatively inexpensive. I still have the house and… -
You don’t say?!
9 Apr 2009 | 7:51 pmIn my daily rundown of news articles, I came across a particularly interesting one today on MSNBC.com. While the majority of childfree folks already realize that not having kids eliminates a huge stress that is added to a relationship and see it as an added perk, this is news to many others. And while I agree that not having kids does not automatically mean your marriage will be successful (as I am finding out), it does seem to automatically tip the odds in your favor. After all, sadly, many marriages today are not built on firm foundations and once you add a child into the equation, it can… -
There Should be Leash Laws for Children…
22 Feb 2009 | 8:54 pmSorry for the long absence. I’ve had a lot going on lately with work, personal issues, etc., but anyway, on to the topic du jour! I’ve mentioned before that I have shown horses since I was 8 years old. One of my pet peeves is when people just turn their children loose at these events. Not only is it annoying, but it is also extremely dangerous both for the kids and others around them. This is a common complaint among many people but there are many parents who just don’t seem to care. There have been times where I, as well as other people, have been in the show ring… -
Television’s Officially Hit Rock Bottom
4 Dec 2008 | 9:01 pmWe all know that television these days can be occasionally…well…disappointing. However, even on my most desperate days, I can’t imagine anyone willingly watching this. It’s bad enough that they’re everywhere in the media, but why on earth would anyone want to watch a play by play of this trainwreck. I mean, why hasn’t her body just gone on strike already? Hasn’t she worn it out yet? I can’t stand to think about that for too long as it just makes me do a full body shiver. And now the breeding shenanigans will be on television. Cable…
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What You Need To Know About the Childfree
27 Oct 2009 | 7:55 pmActually, I prefer a totally different term. Childfree people, or, if you like, childfree men and women. Despite the blogs, internet forums and the 21st century, there is still a good dose of ignorance about childfree people. I was thinking about this today and among other things thought that it would make for slightly different post. One [...] -
Childfree? Noisy Kids Upstairs? You May Be Asked to Suck it Up
12 Oct 2009 | 7:02 pmMy thanks to a reader, (let’s call her “Sally”) who sent in this very interesting article and link. As the Sally says, it’s probably not unique to the childfree. I’ve made few if any changes to it because it didn’t need any changes. So anyone who thinks it’s “whining” just look away now and don’t read on. I [...] -
Kids Love Parents Unconditionally, Even as Adults. Seriously?
30 Sep 2009 | 8:45 pmI mean, seriously? My readers have done it again. Thank for sending me what has to be one of the more ridiculous posts I’ve read in a while. Keep the links coming everyone…they are much appreciated because they invariably make for great discussions. On to this week’s find. What’s ridiculous about the 40 Reasons to have kids (apart from [...] -
Childfree – Recognise The Referendum?
20 Sep 2009 | 9:38 pmThe Referendum It’s late, however I just had to get this post up on the blog. It was sent to me by a reader of Like It Is and like all the great links sent to me I’d have missed it otherwise. So thank you… all of you who send me link to very interesting stories [...] -
Childfree -Friendships Change
5 Sep 2009 | 11:03 pmThe “What’s on your mind” off-topic is going so well I’m going to let it run for a little while to continue the conversation. Lots of very interesting subjects on a whole range of topics. Some we’ve discussed in past months, but others we haven’t or they were before some readers discovered Like it is. One [...]
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OMFG WTF IS THIS?
3 Nov 2009 | 3:05 pmI don't know if anyone else frequents the humor blog STFU Parents, but let me tell you, sometimes there are things on this site that even I can't handle.As a new user of Facebook, I haven't yet had the pleasure of coming across EXTREME parental over-share but let me tell you something- if I ever see some shit like this or anything that even holds a candle to this bullshit- I am not only deleting the offender from my friend list, I am excommunicating the motherfucker from my entire life.Really. What kind of sick bastard would post some ill shit like this on the goddamned internet??? You… -
Pregnancy Does NOT Entitle You To Premier Parking!
12 Oct 2009 | 7:37 pmI've only been on Facebook for a month and ALREADY it's proving itself to be more of an annoyance than what I need in my life.Here's the story. I posted a camera phone picture of an annoying sign in my local grocer's parking lot that states "Expectant Mom Parking" and added the caption: "While, I'd never park in a traditional handicap accessible parking space, I DO park here quite regularly, because pregnancy is not a fucking handicap and you should not get special parking spot for having sex!".Because really, if sex is the standard for premier parking, my own sexual history should more than… -
You're Now In The "Momfia", Let The Chorus of "It's So Worth It" Begin
1 Oct 2009 | 8:48 pmMy BFF delivered her kid a few days ago and so far, she seems to be happy and handling motherhood fairly well.But again, she's only like 6 days into this thing so who knows...Of course, every Facebook update she posts is filled with fucktons of baby pictures and updates on the kid, which I guess I expected, but as a person totally unmoved by infants, I still find it all to be pretty snooze inducing. I mean how many pictures can you take of a newborn? They look the fucking same in every photo! They have two facial expressions at this age, "crying face" and "blank face". I mean, really.In any… -
My Health Insurance is Anti-Childfree...How Bout Yours?
9 Sep 2009 | 8:23 pmAfter much deliberation, I recently decided to switch birth control methods.After talking over some options with my gynecologist, I decided that maybe I wanted to give Mirena a try.I knew that there were risks. For instance, it's implanted in your uterus and is often harder to insert in women who haven't had children. Also, there is a higher risk of the device being expelled from an "unused" uterus. My doctor advised me that since a woman's uterus is ALWAYS enlarged by pregnancy, women who have not been pregnant are more susceptible to problems.Sure this, along with the possibility of pain… -
If Adoption Were Free...Wouldn't Breeders Still IVF It?
26 Aug 2009 | 7:55 pmI was privy to some conversation the other day between two of the women I work with regarding one's struggle to conceive and heard one express a sentiment I have heard MANY times...."IVF is cheaper than adoption so we're going with that."This has been talked about a lot lately...just google "IVF vs. Adoption" and a plethora of shit comes up.Supposedly, IVF costs up to $15k but private adoptions can cost between $20 and $25k.Hmph, well fostering a kid is FREE if you really want one that bad. Hell, they pay YOU to take the kid, not vice versa!How come we never hear THAT?Sarcasm aside, last I…
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Moo 'n' screaming brat kicked off flight
5 Nov 2009 | 9:44 amWe are slowly getting closer to CF flights - well we can but hope. A moo and her screaming brat were booted off a flight in the States (sadly it was on the ground and not 38,000 feet up), and according to the article 76% of people agreed with the airline. There is a downside to this: the airline went and compensated the fucking moo! -
Words totally fail me
4 Nov 2009 | 7:18 amhttp://uk.news.yahoo.com/4/20091103/twl-eleven-year-old-girl-gives-birth-in-41f21e0.html Eleven-year-old girl gives birth in Bulgaria. I don't know what bothers me the most about this. -
Proof that having baybees should NOT be a 'right'
3 Nov 2009 | 5:39 amI was sent this link by email. But in essence a selfish breeder will have her 14th resource sucker taken into care (13 are already in care) and she's planning to continue to spawn them out. I must admit I can't fathom why anyone would fuck her-her fanny must be as wide and as windy as the... -
China fucks it up big time
2 Nov 2009 | 11:09 amThey wanted a little rain to aid agriculture. Instead they got this. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/asia-pacific/8337337.stm A timely occurence as enthusiasm for -
Evolution’s Path May Lead To Shorter, Stouter Women Who Give Birth Earlier
1 Nov 2009 | 5:26 pmEvolution's Path May Lead To Shorter, Stouter Women Who Give Birth Earlier http://opa.yale.edu/news/article.aspx?id=6989 "The results showed that the effects of natural selection are slow and gradual, but trend towards shorter, chubbier women with lower blood pressure and cholesterol and who give birth earlier in life." This is INVOLUTION, we're going back to Palaeolithic:...
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My Dogs - Big & Scary
31 Oct 2009 | 3:27 pmCouple kids are outside this morning. Hubbs takes the dogs out and the kids start whistling at the dogs, so they go running over there thinking they're being called. The dad bursts out the door and tells hubbs, "If your dogs bite my kids I'm going to have to sue you." Um ... whatwasthatagain? Even better is it's Halloween and my guess is these kids are going to come up thinking about knocking on my door, yelling "Trick or treat" and getting candy. HELL NO.This is all coming from 1 of 3 deadbeat parents who let their kids play out in the lot unsupervised. Pretended to take no notice of his… -
All Grown Up
27 Oct 2009 | 11:27 amLast night I started putting together Apollo's Scrapbook on here. I ran across a photo I took of him when he was probably around 6 months old to show how badly his back was hunched and his feet turned out.Gawd, remember? We weren't sure if his body would ever reach a stance that was remotely normal.What a beautiful boy he turned out to be.I put pics in his Scrapbook from 3 weeks until the most recent ones. He was such an adorable poofy little baby. ♥ -
Happy Autumn to everyone!
21 Oct 2009 | 9:17 amIt's autumn here in central NY and the leaves have turned red and orange and are starting to litter the ground with their pretty colours. I took Miss Dahlia out to get some pictures in the foliage!Ever wonder what Dahlia would look like with prick ears? lolSit pretty!I don't know what the hell this is. I asked her for a sit pretty and she kept sticking her paws up in the air. So I took a picture of it.Mom I REALLY want that chicken chip. Please?Serious dog is serious.Not so serious dog wanted belly rubs. Quality = bad because she rolled over where I was facing directly into the sun. Darned… -
Some asswipe threw a rock at my cat!
20 Oct 2009 | 1:49 pmThis is my cat, Bunny Foo Foo.She's a very timid rescue, but still a very loving girl. Just now she was sunning herself on the front porch while I was just inside tidying. A group of teens ambled by. One stopped, picked up a rock, and hit her with it. I saw it, came out of the house, and told him in no uncertain terms that if I caught him, I would basically mangle him. He left.Foo seems ok. She's upset and hiding under the table. I'll watch her to make sure she doesn't have anything wrong with her. Should I take her to the vet? She's usually an inside cat, but likes to go out on the porch for… -
The Laaazyyy Eyyyeee
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Born With One Strike
14 Oct 2009 | 2:46 pmA neighbor of mine was shaking her head about the kids she sees daily at her job. She works at a field house that’s part of the Chicago Park District system. It’s one of the newer field houses, a nice facility that unfortunately, doesn’t offer much besides basketball and a fitness room. The people who live around the field house pushed to have it built, complaining that the kids nearby didn’t have a place where they could do some positive hanging out. Now that it’s up and running, it appears that the kids who do come in are causing problems. “You can look… -
It’s Commonplace
8 Oct 2009 | 11:28 pmI heard squealing coming from the direction of the Pastor’s office. He was pleased to give me the annoucement that the wife of the church’s intern had given birth to a son. “That’s why you heard me squealing,” the First Lady said, excitedly. “Oh, the kid came earlier than expected,” I commented, without a trace of the emotion that the Pastor and his wife had in their voices. Of course, I’m glad that the intern and his wife had a child without any complications. But honesty, I can’t get excited anymore about anyone being born. People always… -
“Why Do I Have A Stupid Kid?”
25 Sep 2009 | 10:30 amI was reading an email from one of the missionaries my church supports. The missionary told a story about a mom who complained, “Why are other people’s kids smart, and my kid is stupid?” She had often said this in front of her kid. She’s not the first or last parent to disparage their kids. My parents didn’t have high opinions of my siblings and I, either. I still chafe about the time I overheard Ma tell someone on the phone that she had “three retarded children.” I pointed to my youngest brother, who was born developmentally delayed, and said,…
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MomsRising=Parents Deserve Special Rights!
30 Oct 2009 | 4:13 pmA rather reasonable friend of mine, who has kids but I wouldn’t consider a “breeder,” mentioned something about the website “MomsRising” to me recently. I’ve heard mention of it a couple of times before, but never checked it out, for fear it was one of those breederiffic mommy-feel-good websites. But when this reasonable friend mentioned it, I thought I might check it out. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t hate everything parent/kid related, and I actually clicked the link thinking I’d find something to rave about. That was a mistake. It is a… -
Looking for NaNoWriMo writing buddies?
27 Oct 2009 | 4:20 pmSlightly off topic, but anyone NaNoWriMo-ing this year? Some of you may not have heard of NaNoWriMo. It’s a project to get amateur writers who claim “someday I’m going to write a novel” to start writing one. You start a fresh novel idea November 1st and the goal is to reach 50,000 words by the end of the month — about 1700 words a day. To give you an idea of how many words 1700 is, it’s not quite three pages in MS Word (single spaced). NaNoWriMo is on the honor system, so you can cheat if you want, but what’s the point? All you get is a certificate. -
Woot! Hate Mail!
19 Oct 2009 | 4:11 pmThat Daddy Blogger that I linked to last week and his people are still not over it (*eyeroll*) so now I got this trolling email. Which is fine but it’s such obvious trolls it takes all the fun out of it. I just wish I could get some GOOD hate mail. It’s been slow around here lately and it makes me sad. The email itself is clearly an obvious troll, but even before I got to that, I knew it was a troll. This rocket scientist set up his email headers to say his name is “Pete Jergen” but when writing emails, he forgets all about this, so instead he signs his email as… -
Two Is Enough: A Couple’s Guide to Living Childless by Choice
16 Oct 2009 | 11:59 amI just added a new childfree book to my Childfree Reading List: Two Is Enough: A Couple’s Guide to Living Childless by Choice by Laura S. Scott “In Two Is Enough, Laura S. Scott examines the most compelling motives to remain childfree and the decisionmaking process, exploring the growing trend of childlessness through her own story and those of others who have made this choice.” It just came out so I haven’t read it yet, so I can’t review it, but if any of you have, let us know what you think! Click here to read more about it on amazon.com (You don’t have… -
Mommies Buy Useless Crap
16 Oct 2009 | 9:40 amThis is probably the dumbest thing I’ve heard of in a while and yet mommies are ga-ga over it. It’s The Shandle. No wonder people with kids are broke – they’ll buy anything that other mommies tell them is the “in” thing to buy, no matter how useless. (Admittedly this is a cheap piece of shit at $7 each, but I’d bet they’d still buy it if it was $100 a pop, as long as they thought it would make them look like “good” mommies.) What is the Shandle, you ask? It’s some useless piece of plastic you stick to the toilet seat to help kids…
